"No, they don't, it doesn't make any sense, I've read this statistic that said opposites don't attract at all," I pointed out.
"Well, my mom and dad are opposites and they're still together!" She waved her hands about as if that proves her point.
"Have you heard of the phrase Birds of a feather flock together?" I stated as my blood began to boil and this started a burning question in my mind that would trouble me for a while.
So which is true? The term 'opposites attract' or 'birds of a feather flock together'? For me, i agree with the latter. Of course there is some truth to it but i will elaborate on that a little further later on. Firstly, statistics have shown that couples with the common interests tend to stay together longer, if they have different outlooks on life with differences that seem too much to comprehend, the relationship is unlikely to last. If a couple is different, it is much easier to get into conflicts and destroy the relationship. You may say that it's due to the fact that the relationship dynamics in play is screwed up but i beg to differ. How many times have couples broken up over the fact that they had different goals or said that they did not match?
Take Joanne Peh and Bobbi Tonelli for instance, though i like the fact they look great together, they broke up in the end due to the fact that they 'viewed marriage differently'. You see, Joanne is the type of girl who believes in marriage, that once you're in love, marriage is something that ties together the whole 'happily-ever-after' ending. Ever since she got together with Bobbi, she said that marriage is 'just a piece of paper' etc. etc. etc. She changed and when she realised that, as well as noticing that she began to feel like they couldn't really communicate as well as before, she broke up with him.
So what is the factor at play here? Da Da Dum!
THEY WERE DIFFERENT
Lets just rule out the probability that they could have simply drifted apart and focus on one thing we know is obvious to anyone: the differences. Common interests keep a couple longer together because they have similar interests, values and hobbies which they can do together which in turn, strengthens their relationship. You don't get that with someone who is your polar opposite where you would most likely end up each doing your own thing and eventually drifting apart.
That said, of course you can't go out there searching for anyone who's exactly like you. You need a little something different and that's where the 'Opposites Attract' come into play
You can't have someone totally similar to you cause that's kind of like a brother/sister kind of relationship and no one really wants that. The different things in your partner would be what would attract you to him/her. A difference that won't be too little nor too large that would cause disparities in the relationship. It has to be just right.
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